You’ve been dating someone who lights up your heartspace. They’re smart, funny, emotionally aware, and maybe even know what Mercury retrograde means. But before you start planning your shared yurt, kombucha bar, or get their name tattoed on your butt, there’s one tiny cosmic question to ask:

Are they truly “The One”… or just another beautiful lesson from the Universe?

✨ Divine Timing Is Real

Sometimes love arrives like lightning. Sometimes it’s a slow burn, like a candlelit bath for your soul. Whether your connection showed up with fireworks or a quiet, familiar hum, it’s wise to pause and tune in before going all in.

Because here’s the truth: love isn’t just about attraction. It’s about resonance. Alignment. Soul vibes.

These 14 questions will help you figure out whether your relationship is soulmate-level magic—or just a spiritually stylish detour.

💘 Ask Yourself These 14 Soul-Aligned Questions:

1. How do you feel when you’re with them?

Forget abs and curated selfies. How do you feel energetically when you’re together? Safe? Inspired? Alive?

According to Dr. Alexander Avila, people tend to fall into one of four “Love Temperaments”:

• Security Seekers
• Excitement Seekers
• Meaning Seekers
• Knowledge Seekers

Get honest about what you truly need—whether that’s stability, fun, depth, or intellectual connection—and ask yourself: Do I feel that when we’re together?

2. Do they love and accept you as you are?

Bodies change. Moods shift. Life gets messy. A soulmate isn’t just in love with your highlight reel—they cherish your raw, authentic self, stretch marks and all. If they adore you on your worst days, not just your sunniest ones… that’s sacred.

3. Do they go out of their way for you?

Big or small, love shows up. Whether it’s moving across the country, grabbing your favorite tea when you’re sick, or making space in their life to support your dreams—it’s the effort that tells the story.

4. Do they make you laugh (the kind that shakes your soul and makes you snort--or pee your pants)?

Life is lighter when you laugh together. If they can dissolve your stress with one quirky comment or cosmic joke, and if you both have an unspoken language of joy… that’s alchemy.

5. Do they support your passions and purpose?

A soulmate isn’t intimidated by your light—they reflect it. They cheer for your creative dreams, your healing path, your weird little hobbies (yes, even the herb-drying, moon-charging ones). They see your magic—and help you grow it.

6. Do you want to spend time with them (not just tolerate it)?

It shouldn’t feel like a task to hang out with your partner. If you find yourself craving their presence—longing for them even after they’ve just left—that’s a sign your connection runs deep.

7. Are they your go-to person for life’s big (and small) moments?

Got a new job? Had a spiritual breakthrough during breathwork? Found a rock that looks like a heart? If they’re the first person you want to tell, that’s more than romance—that’s soul kinship.

8. Are they emotionally available and there for you?

Can they hold space for your pain without trying to fix it? Do they show up when it’s messy—when you’re vulnerable, overwhelmed, or unraveling? A true partner offers presence, not perfection.

9. Do your values align?

Core values matter. Kindness. Honesty. Spirituality. Growth. Service. Sustainability. Make your list, ask them theirs, and compare. If your values resonate like a tuning fork, you’re on sacred ground.

💚 Spiritual Green Flags to Look For

• They listen deeply—with heart, not just ears
• They honor your path (even if it’s different from theirs)
• They speak respectfully about past relationships
• They’re open to inner work and personal evolution
• They let you sage the house without flinching

10. Do you genuinely respect them?

Respect is love’s foundation. Do you admire who they are at their core? How they treat others? Their courage? Their authenticity? If you respect them deeply, the love will have roots that endure.

11. Do you trust them fully?

Trust isn’t just about fidelity—it’s about energy. Can you relax when they’re not around? Can you let go of control and feel safe in the connection? If you find yourself spiraling, pause: is it your intuition—or old wounds?

12. Do you share enough common interests?

You don’t need to love all the same things (it’s okay if they’re not into ecstatic dance), but shared experiences create glue. Whether it’s cooking, hiking, swimming, meditating, gardening, or just geeking out over quantum physics—you need some joyful overlap.

13. Do you have magnetic physical chemistry?

You don’t need to look like a magazine cover couple—but there must be a spark. You should feel drawn to each other. Alive. Curious. Chemistry isn’t about perfection—it’s about energy. You can’t fake it.

14. Can you imagine growing old together—and still wanting to kiss them?

Fast forward 30 years. Are you still laughing? Growing? Holding hands? Soulmate love evolves over time—it doesn’t fade. If the idea of forever with them feels comforting, not constricting, that’s powerful clarity.

🌈 What If It’s Not a YES to Most of These?

That’s okay. Seriously.

Not every love is meant to last forever. Some relationships are sacred stepping stones. Some teach. Some stretch. Some awaken. And that’s beautiful, too.

If you’re discovering this isn’t the one, honor that clarity. Because it means you're one giant soul-step closer to someone who is.

🕯️ Final Reflection:

Light a candle. Close your eyes. Breathe into your heart. Your soul always knows. Whether this is your life partner, a karmic soulmate, or a chapter on the way to something deeper, trust the wisdom of your intuition.

And maybe wait on that tattoo. Just in case.